Sometimes by just telling a person that you are angry can relieve the tension of the situation.
Remember you are responsible for your own safety. If you are in an angry situation, you are responsible to leave and put yourself in a safe place.
Anger is usually a response to a perceived threat and it is important that you recognize
and deal with your physical readiness to defend yourself. Your body perceives that it is under attack and it has prepared itself to defend you.
Though you may resolve the problem in your mind, your body is still ready to fight. You must relieve the physical anger and the most effective way is to leave and go for a walk.
Then when you are calmed, return and discuss the situation when you feel safe.
Regular exercise is also helpful in relieving the need to defend yourself.
When a deep breath is taken in through the nose, the cool air actually cools off that part of the
brain which controls anger. Give it a try when you are angry.
We carry old angers within us like bubbles in a bucket. When we hold on to old hurts our bucket becomes quite full and when someone cuts us off on the freeway
we may blow up. That "insult" was enough for us to blow up but we are not reacting to the "insult" we are reacting to old angers that we have been storing.
Therapy, regular exercise and meditation are all effective methods for resolving old angers.
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